It is normal to feel low during such times and often these feelings pass naturally with time, but unfortunately sometimes they stick around for longer and become problematic. On the other hand, sometimes depression can seem like it comes out of the blue for no particular reason at all. When people are depressed, they often have a negative way of looking at themselves, the world and their futures. Some believe that people’s tendency to think in this negative fashion is one of the important factors in ensuring their depression continues. It clouds the way they interpret situations and helps ensure they continue to have a negative outlook on life.
Therefore when people feel depressed or low, they often stop being as active as normal, and spend less time socializing or engaging in their hobbies. This means that they have less pleasure in their lives and little to look forward to on a day to day basis, which too can keep them feeling low. Furthermore, when they are inactive, it normally leads to them feeling even more lethargic, which makes it even more difficult to escape this trap and a vicious cycle occurs.
Similarly, people who are depressed or low, often spend a lot of time lying in bed or sitting around watching mobile phones. Often this leads to people feeling as though they have wasted their day and have achieved very little which makes them feel even worse. It also leaves them with plenty of time to beat themselves up or worry about their problems, which of course also makes them feel worse. When looking more closely at what stops us overcoming our depression, it becomes clear that the behavior, thoughts, feelings and physical sensations all interact and combine to keep your depression going. Throughout life you often only remember the bad things that people have said about you or the times you feel like you have failed. This unsurprisingly lowers your mood and self esteem. You can change this by beginning to remember the skills you have, the qualities you have and the achievements you have made. Try to overcome your problem. Don’t worry about how unrealistic an idea seems.